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Author Topic: My Mother has Died. Robert E. Allen Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1078 From: Checotah, Oklahoma Registered: Jul 2002 posted 06-07-2003 09:27 PM                     Tom, you have my prayers. May He comfort you as you grieve and strengthen you to carry on as you mom would want you to do. And be strong for your dad friend, he has suffered a great loss too.  |  IP: Logged Mathew Molloy Master Film Handler Posts: 357 From: The Santa Cruz Mountains Registered: Nov 2000 posted 06-07-2003 09:36 PM                     Tim, please accept my heartfelt condolences. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your father.  |  IP: Logged Ken Layton Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1452 From: Olympia, Wash. USA Registered: Sep 1999 posted 06-08-2003 01:02 AM                     Tim: Sorry to hear of your loss. I know what you're going through. I lost my mom at the age of 59 back in 1997. She was going to the bank to cash her social security check when another car darted out of a grocery store parking lot and t-boned her car on the drivers side. She died of her injuries. It happened so suddenly that I was in total shock....I just didn't know what to do. I was so stunned that I called a friend to cover my shifts at the Skyline drivein for Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I must have cried for three days straight. The support of many friends sure helped to ease the pain.  |  IP: Logged Manny Knowles "What are these things and WHY are they BLUE???" Posts: 4247 From: Bloomington, IN, USA Registered: Feb 2002 posted 06-08-2003 01:05 AM                     If you really don't know what to do with yourself, then perhaps you might check out "The Grief Recovery Handbook."  |  IP: Logged Rick Long Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 759 From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada Registered: Nov 1999 posted 06-08-2003 01:36 AM                     Tim, please accept my sincerest condolences. I lost my mother several years ago due to a stroke. She did not go immediately, but clung on to life for a couple of months. I don't think she recognized me during those two months. It is a hard thing to take. When you think back on your mother, think of the good times and be thankful that she was a part of your life. Be there for your father. It is HE that needs YOU now.  |  IP: Logged Michael Schaffer "Where is the Boardwalk Hotel?" Posts: 4143 From: Boston, MA Registered: Apr 2002 posted 06-08-2003 01:36 AM                        My father died when I was 19. He had been very ill for a long time. The best way to make your parents live on is to live your life as well and happily as you can, since that is what they wish for the most.  |  IP: Logged Daryl C. W. O'Shea Film God Posts: 3977 From: Midland Ontario Canada (where Panavision & IMAX lenses come from) Registered: Jun 2002 posted 06-08-2003 02:06 AM                        Tim, sorry to hear about your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family.  |  IP: Logged Randy Stankey Film God Posts: 6539 From: Erie, Pennsylvania Registered: Jun 99 posted 06-08-2003 10:44 AM                     I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My father died when I was 17. Without going into details, times were not very happy for me for a long time. It's hard to say that, in "some period of time", you will "feel better" about your Mother's death. When we suffer such a loss, we have the feeling like we want the whole problem to just "go away". We entertain the idea that things will "get back to normal". The hard truth of the matter is that this IS normal. All I can say is that instead of feeling "better" you should look forward to feeling "different" about her death. It's been 21 years since my father died. Still, there are times when I feel just as sad as on the day he died. Other times, I have fond memories of the times we had. After a while, even the bad feelings won't "sting" so bad and the fond feelings will feel just a bit "sweeter". Just consider this to be a "rite of passage" that we all must go through at least one time in our lives. The best words of condolance I can offer come from the poem, "Inscription on a Sundial" by John Greenleaf Whittier: With warning hand I mark Time's rapid flight, From Life's glad morning to its solemn night; Yet, through the dear God's love, I also show There's light above by the shadow below. - John Greenleaf Whittier Years later, this poem gave me an insight to look at my problems in a different way than I had in the past. I don't know the state of mind you are in, nor do I know your feelings about such writing. I won't belabor with explanation. If you want, read it over and think about it. I hope it helps.  |  IP: Logged Bob Maar (Maar stands for Maartini) Posts: 28608 From: New York City & Newport, RI Registered: Feb 2001 posted 06-08-2003 11:14 AM                        Tim, I also would like to express my sympathies to you and to your family on the loss of your Mom. Please remember that she will always live on in your heart and in your Dad's heart. He will need your support and love. I also agree she will be watching over you and your family and you will all be together again someday.  |  IP: Logged Josh Jones Redhat Posts: 1207 From: Plano, TX Registered: Apr 2000 posted 06-08-2003 05:21 PM                        I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. A few of my relatives have passed in the last few years and I know what you are going through. Remember the good times and cherish your memories. Sincerely, Josh  |  IP: Logged Sean McKinnon Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1712 From: Peabody Massachusetts Registered: Sep 2000 posted 06-08-2003 06:28 PM                        Im sorry Tim thats terrible news I hope yourself and your family will be ok.  |  IP: Logged Peter Berrett Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 602 From: Victoria, Australia Registered: Nov 2000 posted 06-08-2003 08:13 PM                        Sorry to hear about your loss Tim. I lost my mum 7 years ago to cancer at the age of 53. It is good that you share you feelings as as it will help you with your grief. Everyone here shares your pain and is praying for you. cheers Peter  |  IP: Logged Jon Miller Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 973 From: San Diego, CA, USA Registered: Sep 1999 posted 06-09-2003 12:09 AM                     Tim, So sorry to hear about your loss...my thought go out to you and your father. We must all press on regardless....in 1996, as I was checking in to do one of my freelance projection jobs, I learned about the passing of a friend who mentored me in the world of 35mm projection. He was in his seventies, and I felt as if I had lost a father. (Like some of you in the forum, he knew the equipment inside and out and had a garage full of projection equipment and parts; he also had amazing machinist skills and the tools to boot.) As painful as it was, the show went on, but with a moment of darkness before starting the projector to honor my source of inspiration.  |  IP: Logged Robert Golding Film Handler Posts: 65 From: Sutter, CA, USA Registered: Jan 2001 posted 06-09-2003 04:42 AM                     Tim, I'm very sorry for your loss of such a special person. I lost my father 2 yrs ago and am taking care of my mother. She'll be 85 this month and we are hoping she will be with us for a long time. It's not easy lossing one of your parents. I just don't know what I'll do when mom leaves us. Enjoy the time you have left with your father and I wish both of you the best.  |  IP: Logged Stephen Furley Film God Posts: 3059 From: Coulsdon, Croydon, England Registered: May 2002 posted 06-09-2003 04:52 AM                     Tim, I am very sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you at this time.  |  IP: Logged

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