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Posted by Manny Knowles (Member # 1171) on 06-13-2003, 06:37 PM:

...so now what do I do?

Good ideas for a first date, please..?

Dinner topics?
After-dinner plans?

Posted by Brad Miller (Member # 2) on 06-13-2003, 07:25 PM:

What is this, Love-Tech?

It's been said before, but most people don't really listen to the words. Just be yourself...really, just be yourself. Plan a couple of nice things to do, nothing too lackluster like making it a Blockbuster night, but nothing too over the top either. Whatever you do don't put on a show. Your date will find out sooner or later what parts of that first date are fake. If your date doesn't like you from the get-go without you having to wear a personality, save yourself the time and move on to the next prospect who can appreciate your quirks and sense of humor. (I say this because IMHO if you are planning dinner topics, you don't sound like you will be too relaxed during the date.)

Or to put it in a more non-PC sort of way, just don't put forth too much effort trying to impress and if it works, great, if not, it would've ended sooner or later anyway and save you the time. [Wink]

I'm going to refrain from actual first date suggestions on things to do, because that's a job for Chipper! [Big Grin]

(Daryl, do you have the Film-Tech Interlock dating service set up yet?)

Posted by Joe Redifer (Member # 3) on 06-13-2003, 07:35 PM:

If being yourself doesn't impress your date, then put on a fake personality so that you can maybe get some. I can't imagine your real personality working very well (just kidding, Manny [Smile]

).

During the summer bike riding kicks ass. Not much room for conversation which is exactly what you want.

Posted by Mike Pennell (Member # 1692) on 06-13-2003, 09:05 PM:

The movies are always great for first dates. Not a lot of talking. And you can get a feel for the person, or you can feel the person [Wink]

Posted by Michael Schaffer (Member # 1204) on 06-13-2003, 09:09 PM:

If you like, you can say that you know me. That usually impresses the hell out of people. Of course, we never actually met, but I would back you up here to help you.

Posted by Aaron Mehocic (Member # 15) on 06-13-2003, 09:52 PM:

quote:
During the summer bike riding kicks ass.

What about during the winter months Joe?

Posted by Mark Gulbrandsen (Member # 72) on 06-13-2003, 10:29 PM:

Riding bicycles sucks! Bicyclists around here almost always come in the form of some iddiot that tries to hog the road....especially when they ride down the canyons out here at 60 mph! I've always wanted to see a bicyclists tire blow out at that speed going downhill.....hehehehehe [Big Grin]

One day last summer when I was on my Harley going up Big Cottonwood canyon two bicyclists tried to block the road...these guys were struggling uphill and not paying attention to what was going on or the line up that followed them for several miles so I blew(literally as I have straight pipes on my Harley) right between them with about a foot to spare on either side. Riding side by side like that is illegal! I can only hope they both peed in their monkey suits.

No nifty suggestions to make a good first impression Manny....I suppose its important that you just don't be like Joe! [Confused]

Mark
P.S. Out here in the winter we snowshoe, Ski(if ya know how to), and take in many artsy type things as well as all the ususl stuff.

Posted by Steve Kraus (Member # 476) on 06-13-2003, 11:03 PM:

in the winter we snowshoe

Now I know what happened to my tennis rackets.

Posted by Manny Knowles (Member # 1171) on 06-13-2003, 11:33 PM:

Thanks for the helpful replies...We are going to have to reschedule for another time so there will be no followup tonight. That's a lot of useful advice, though. Thanks again.

Posted by Michael Schaffer (Member # 1204) on 06-13-2003, 11:41 PM:

Mark, driving is a priviledge, not a right! Even if others make mistakes or violate traffic rules, we have no right to enforce them ourselves - however annoying they might behave. And the driver with the more powerful vehicle is directly responsible for others with less powerful vehicles.

Posted by Daryl C. W. O'Shea (Member # 1303) on 06-13-2003, 11:52 PM:

quote:
(Daryl, do you have the Film-Tech Interlock dating service set up yet?)

Sorry, that was on Xenon. [bs]

happens.

Posted by Mark Gulbrandsen (Member # 72) on 06-14-2003, 12:12 AM:

Quote:
"Mark, driving is a priviledge, not a right! Even if others make mistakes or violate traffic rules, we have no right to enforce them ourselves - however annoying they might behave. And the driver with the more powerful vehicle is directly responsible for others with less powerful vehicles."
_________________________________________________________________

I don't know of any law that says I couldn't split them......sort of like splitting lanes in California.......
Anyway, it certainly woke them up!! [Big Grin]

Mark

Posted by Brad Miller (Member # 2) on 06-14-2003, 12:18 AM:

Well let me know when you get it running on Brain so we can get Michael Schaffer a date.

Posted by Bobby Henderson (Member # 840) on 06-14-2003, 12:24 AM:

First date ideas?

I usually do the "harmless" lunch date thing or meet up with some friends in a somewhat neutral setting to see if I click at all with the lady. If there isn't any fun or chemistry with her then I keep from wasting $100 on a restaurant, drinks, etc.

It is a bad idea to go to a nightclub on a first date. That's just my opinion. But it is never fun to take a lady to a club and have some asshole cock-block you and leave the club with your date. There's too damned many cowboys and soldiers in my town for me to take that chance. So I'll usually take her dancing after a couple dates. If I have won her over with my personality by then (good luck on that one, hehe) she'll tell the steroid boys to f**k off when they try to lay their mack down.

Sometimes I meet women when I go to a nightclub. I don't listen to much country music, but I am good at that two-stepping stuff. Waltzing is a big winner with the ladies since it has that gliding quality to it. The strategy is get her out on the floor, make her dizzy and bewildered with all that spinning. Weeeeee! Buy her a few drinks. Spin her some more. Then lay the mack down. If she resists, spin her some more. From all the motion and dizzyness, she might be receptive to the idea of being in a place that doesn't spin --even if it is your couch or bed. Just be sure it is a lady you can stand to have in your house! And that is perhaps why I think one night stands are a bad idea (or why a hotel room is necessary). I guess the dance-drink-spin-drink-plotz thingie would be my description of what to do on a third or fourth date.

Posted by Rachel Gilardi (Member # 1016) on 06-14-2003, 01:02 AM:

quote:
I'm going to refrain from actual first date suggestions on things to do, because that's a job for Chipper!

And what the hell is that supposed to mean Brad??? [Mad]

Posted by Brad Miller (Member # 2) on 06-14-2003, 01:25 AM:

Oh yeah, that's right Rachel, go ahead and answer my comment and not answer poor Manny's plea for help. How mean. [Razz]

Posted by Stephen Furley (Member # 1277) on 06-14-2003, 03:04 AM:

Don't ask me, I've never had a date. Great believer in staying single [Smile]

Posted by Phil Hill (Member # 371) on 06-14-2003, 03:49 AM:

Manny! I hope all goes well...and like others have said, just be yourself. If it's not to be, then it's not and it is better to find out before you spend a lot of bucks and then find out you can't get laid!

If you have any questions, I'll be happy to answer...I AM the Master-dater.... [Smile]

>>> Phil

Posted by Bernard Tonks (Member # 809) on 06-14-2003, 05:40 AM:

One of my first dates went well, we meet outside the Little Kinema as it was next to the bus station, going to the Odeon, Surbiton to see "A Night To Remember". We both worked at the Regal, Kingston-upon-Thames, and got married 18 months later.

Happy dating Manny! [thumbsup]

Posted by Michael Schaffer (Member # 1204) on 06-14-2003, 08:09 AM:

quote:
running on Brain

quote:
I AM the Master-dater....

I know you have trouble spelling, Phil - what you mean is spelt m-a-s-t-u-r-b-a-t-er.

Posted by Manny Knowles (Member # 1171) on 06-14-2003, 09:24 AM:

Michael! How absolutely awful of you!!! (LOL)

Phil -- Thanks, Phil. I will be in touch!

Rachel, darling...not even ONE teensy weensy little tip?

Posted by Thomas Procyk (Member # 1170) on 06-14-2003, 09:40 AM:

Don't take any advice from me... I haven't had a date in TOO long. It's just hard finding someone with the same interests or one who finds the same stupid things funny, but once you do, it's magic! Or so I'm told...

I can help you out on what NOT to do. When you're leaving the movie with your date and they ask you what you thought of it, don't go saying stuff like, "Well the center channel was a little weak and the splice between 4-5 was a little rough." You'll just get a blank stare and a changed subject. [Frown]

Also, if you own a Pac-Man arcade machine, no matter how cool YOU think it is, DON'T plan an evening around it...

And "Music From The Television Game Show: The Price Is Right - Soundtrack" is not reccomended as Mood Music.

'nuff said.
=TMP=

Posted by Scott Norwood (Member # 30) on 06-14-2003, 09:54 AM:

Also, do NOT take someone to see a midnight show of "A Clockwork Orange" on a first date. I did this once and she almost killed me (at the time, neither of us had seen the film).

Posted by Paul Mayer (Member # 355) on 06-14-2003, 11:53 AM:

Or Looking for Mr. Goodbar (and it was her choice too!). That was the last time I went to see a film without doing some research first.

Posted by Aaron Mehocic (Member # 15) on 06-14-2003, 12:06 PM:

I've learned to research EVERYTHING , including the girl. I don't do blind dates, and I don't ask somebody out on a whim.

Posted by Rachel Gilardi (Member # 1016) on 06-14-2003, 12:48 PM:

I don't have any good tips other then just to be yourself...I'm the girl, I don't have to plan dates! [Smile]

Ask Don, hes pretty good at that stuff. [Wink]

But wait, he probably won't repond for at least a week because hes here right now! [beer]

Posted by Mike Blakesley (Member # 26) on 06-14-2003, 12:56 PM:

Yeah, the best advice here is "be yourself," unless you're a jerk, then you've got a problem.

I remember reading a list once of the most effective "meeting" lines....rather than some clever banter, the most effective was "Hi!" (The problem I always had was, what to say next...

Posted by Mark Gulbrandsen (Member # 72) on 06-14-2003, 03:25 PM:

Rachel,

That area is easy! All Don has to do is pack you off to Two Rivers and Kurtz's German bar. Be sure to try the Brunschweiger while your there....however, carry some Gas-Ex with you though........ Your output may contribute to the destruction of the Ozone layer [Smile]

Mark

Posted by Bob Maar (Member # 763) on 06-14-2003, 03:36 PM:

Manny Read all of the Jokes in the Husband and wife thread I only post true stories.Then you can deceide if you want to be a boy or a girl. [Wink]

Posted by Joe Redifer (Member # 3) on 06-14-2003, 05:04 PM:

Mark - I also hate it when bicyclists ride in the street. When I am driving I always want to bump them back up to the sidewalk where they belong. What really pisses me off are bicyclists who ride in the street when there is not only a perfectly good sidewalk right next to them, but also a bike trail no more than 10 to 15 feet away! I hate all road bikers (those bikes with those skinny little tires, formerly known as "10-speeds"). Those are the kinds of people who shave their legs to make themselves more aerodynamic and wear tight outfits with lots of "sponsors". I am a mountain biker. Trails only for me, and I don't play with the cars.

Posted by Carl Martin (Member # 1146) on 06-15-2003, 05:09 AM:

hard to tell how much you're bullshitting, joe, but in case anyone takes it seriously, the street is indeed the place for bicycles, not the sidewalk! that's for pedestrians. if there's a bike path, great, that should be used. even better, a bike lane. but if not, bicycles go wherever the other wheeled vehicles go, unless specifically prohibited. the other side of that coin, of course, is that bicyclists should obey the traffic rules and use signals! from what i've seen, many drivers and cyclists have some work to do in this area.

carl

Posted by Per Hauberg (Member # 529) on 06-15-2003, 10:27 AM:

"Tonite" is already long ago.
Barry must now be the one to give good advise, charing his experiences since "then"

p.

Posted by Michael Schaffer (Member # 1204) on 06-15-2003, 02:32 PM:

Who is Barry?

Posted by Bobby Henderson (Member # 840) on 06-15-2003, 03:17 PM:

Even though this is OT from the thread, I have to back up Joe on the bike thing. Road bicyclists in Colorado can be an especially stupid breed.

It might be one thing to drive on the street where the speed limits are slow. But I have seen dumbasses pedaling along on major traffic thoroughfares in Colorado Springs. There are at least a few bicyclists directly responsible for causing some fatal car accidents on US-24 outside of the 'Springs. You try to miss the biker; you have a head on with a semi.

Road bikers need to find a park with a bike path and stay the hell off the highway. [Mad]

Posted by Joe Redifer (Member # 3) on 06-15-2003, 03:56 PM:

I wasn't bullshitting. I got my first bike when I was 8 (a BMX which I still have today though I have completely rebuilt it). I lived on a street where the speed limit was 45mph. Yup, 4 lanes of 45mph traffic right at the edge of my driveway. What if I wanted to ride my bike up and down the block a few times? The street surely is no place for that, especially for a child of 8. I'm pretty certain that I wouldn't be here typing this today if I followed the "bikes belong in the street" rule. Side streets are OK because the sidewalks are pretty thin. But bigger streets? It is FAR easier for a bicyclist to avoid a pedestrian on a sidewalk than it is for a car to avoid a bicyclist. If the biker can't see and navigate around a pedestrian, then the biker is stupid. I hate almost pulling into the oncoming lane of traffic just to avoid a dumb ass biker.

The only time I ever ran into a pedestrian was when I was 5 on a borrowed bike with training wheels. I was going up a hill and they were walking towards me. I assumed they'd move out of the way but they didn't so I crashed and fell off. Other than that I've had no problems avoiding people, and people have never yelled at me for being on a sidewalk or path.

Posted by Nate Lehrke (Member # 1460) on 06-16-2003, 12:35 AM:

I used to always bike on the sidewalks in Denver until two things changed my mind. 1. Hit by old woman not paying attention. She just wasn't watching the sidewalk and I didn't see her. 2. Denver Police "pulled me over". The officer used his siren to get my attention, than a loud speaker to tell me “I have to use the street".

Now, being that my bike is my only means of transportation, I have a lot of close calls with un-observant drivers. But if stay aware of traffic, use routes that have bike lanes or park trails, I feel safe and fine.

I also remember when I did drive and came upon a biker, I would just think "Get a Car!" and get very upset that I had to maneuver around them.

All in all, I think bikers should be able to make the decision on where they bike. If there are bike lanes and trails, GREAT! But if not, use common sense on determining safe bike streets. And if drivers would look at the sidewalk occasionally, accidents would decrease.

Just my thoughts on this thread which has veered juristically like it so often does here at FT!

Posted by Carl Martin (Member # 1146) on 06-16-2003, 02:54 AM:

i'm not a recreational biker; i bike to get around. don't have a car, can't drive one. i can't get where i need to go just biking in parks. maybe the sidewalks of denver are so empty of people that it's not a problem, but around here they are not. cars and bikes move at such a speed that they need to signal their intentions (turns, stops) and respond to the signals of others to avoid accidents. the street is where this conventionally happens. pedestrians are not obligated to signal, nor do they walk in straight lines. if a pedestrian "swerves" into the path of a cyclist on the sidewalk and is hit, the cyclist is at fault.

i can't generalize, but in places i've lived it is illegal to bike on the sidewalk. in cambridge, ma, i pulled onto the sidewalk to park my bike, realized i did so a block early, and continued biking one more block on the wide sidewalk, steering way clear of foot traffic. i got a $20 ticket, my one traffic offense.

i think there's maybe a perception here that cyclists are hobbyists or fitness freaks or something. some are, but many are just trying to get from a to b, which is what the streets are for.

carl

Posted by Per Hauberg (Member # 529) on 06-16-2003, 03:48 AM:

quote:
Who is Barry?

Minor misspelling (a and y was correct, yes ?), so sorry - no offense meant

--------------------

THEIR is when something belongs to manny

quote of Mr Barry Schaefer

Posted by Michael Schaffer (Member # 1204) on 06-16-2003, 05:49 AM:

My name is Schaffer, not Schaefer.
When I drive north to Los Angeles or Riverside County and see all the pollution lying like a blanket over the land, I think, maybe a few more people should ride a bike if they don`t have to cover really big distances...

Posted by Per Hauberg (Member # 529) on 06-16-2003, 09:55 AM:

One of the great questions of this world is: Who is Barry Schaefer, then. Lieutenant Schaefer (Eastwood lookalike)'s first name was for sure not Barry, but i would still like to promote Mr Hrundi W Bakshi for president !

Posted by Bill Gabel (Member # 1105) on 06-16-2003, 11:55 AM:

Per

It's Lt. Morris Schaffer who was on the mission with Major Jonathan Smith. *

You got my vote for Hrundi V. Bakshi for President [thumbsup]

* "Where Eagles Dare" [beer]

Posted by Phil Hill (Member # 371) on 06-16-2003, 12:47 PM:

Bill: Mr. Bakshi would have to do something since he was thrown outta Hollywood and will NEVER work in pictures again...including television!

>>> Phil

Posted by Jeff Taylor (Member # 443) on 06-16-2003, 12:52 PM:

Movies, bike riding, being yourself...all that's fine, but what happened to some drinks, dinner, and maybe a club for dancing, huh?

Posted by Sam Hunter (Member # 1119) on 06-16-2003, 01:49 PM:

I know this subject is veering off center but what exactly happened with bakshi?

Oh, and Manny, How did the date go?
Did you score [Confused]

Posted by Bobby Henderson (Member # 840) on 06-16-2003, 05:26 PM:

To paraphrase David Lee Roth, you will NOT be getting any leg tonite for sure if you pick up a date on a bicycle.

And if you show up on a Segway she'll think you're a virgin.

Posted by Per Hauberg (Member # 529) on 06-16-2003, 07:28 PM:

Phil

Easy now: Sit down, pardener, and have some birdy num-num. Fred Clutterbuck and Charlie Divott are no longer producer or director of Hollywood Films - Who has ever seen their names since the bubbles went of The Party.
Bakshi will have no trouble doing a comeback - even if now, his wrist watch is to oldfashioned...

p.

"A hole is a hole is a hole"
Smith, Major
(Or was it Mr Burton himself..?)

Posted by Phil Hill (Member # 371) on 06-16-2003, 09:46 PM:

Sam: Per, myself and others are referring to the film "The Party" when we speak of Mr Hrundi W Bakshi...he's the bumbling actor that blew up the set on the last day of filming...ummm, before the director rolled film! [Big Grin]

>>> Phil

Posted by Bob Maar (Member # 763) on 06-16-2003, 09:51 PM:

Phil - Tell Sam the truth. You are Mr Hrundi W Bakshi.

and no more checks. [Big Grin]

Posted by Phil Hill (Member # 371) on 06-16-2003, 09:55 PM:

But daddy Bob, I need money! You PROMISED to support me for life!

>>> Phil

Posted by Sam Hunter (Member # 1119) on 06-16-2003, 11:19 PM:

I actually thought you were refering to Ralph Bakshi.
Maybe I missed that somewhere.

Posted by Per Hauberg (Member # 529) on 06-17-2003, 05:00 AM:

RALPH Bakshi is a covername for Bob Maar, great animator and father of Hrundi, who we know better as Phil (who has an indian mother). The fact, that Phil is Benny's twin, explains, why Benny is a caricature.

Young Mr Bakshi (= Phil) is a well-known artist in the rear art of emptying a whole roll of toiletpaper in one movement.

For further presentation, please contact Mr Blake Edwards, who was leading birth-controller, delivering the twins. And then not one word about Twin Peaks !

All clear now, Yes ??

p.

Posted by Bill Gabel (Member # 1105) on 06-17-2003, 10:22 AM:

Phil

quote:
Hrundi W. Bakshi

It's Hrundi V. Bakshi

Posted by Paul G. Thompson (Member # 655) on 06-17-2003, 11:56 PM:

Compliment your date. But you have to be careful on what you say. As an example, don't compliment her on "how big of teeth she has."

She might eat you. [Big Grin]

And, if she is a little plump, don't say "for a fat hog, you don't really sweat so bad..."

You gotta have a little "class."

Remember, beauty is only skin deep. Ugly is clear to the bone. If a girl dates an ugly guy, she says, "he has class." If guy dates an ugly girl, others would say, "If the Lord saw her, there would be another commandment."

All joking aside, just be yourself. Treat your date with respect and honor, but don't over-do it. [Wink]

Posted by Phil Hill (Member # 371) on 06-18-2003, 09:33 AM:

Actually the original script named the part Hrundi W. Bakshi, but due to an error it was changed to "V" and all dialog that said his name was dubbed over with the "V". My post is an inside joke... [Razz]

>>> Phil

Posted by Scott D. Neff (Member # 185) on 06-18-2003, 12:37 PM:

I hate first dates. I used to go through the entire dog and pony show of "impressing" people... but then it just got tiring. I figure if my date can't go with the flow of "whatever happens" then are they really creative and witty enough to keep my attention past the first date anyway?

Usually drinks at some place with good atmosphere and then a movie if that's where the night goes. If the drinks (alcoholic or otherwise) go well then you can spend the whole night talking, go walking around town if you want and then if things are going REALLY well you can stop walkin and start screwin!

No... wait... I'm a wholesome boy... I don't do that on first dates. [Roll Eyes]

Posted by Phil Hill (Member # 371) on 06-18-2003, 08:15 PM:

Don't forget the other person is feeling much of the same things you are feeling and wondering about. It's a 2-way street...it is ALWAYS best if both people are just themselves.

Two "plastic" people will have as much fun as to "real" people. It's the match that counts...

OBTW Paul: In your above post, it works not only for your assumption of male-female dates, but also male-male and female-female dates as well. [Wink]

>>> Phil

Posted by Paul G. Thompson (Member # 655) on 06-18-2003, 10:26 PM:

Yes, Phil. You are absolutely correct, and it applies to friendships as well.

If someone treats a person like shit, the person who is treating another that way can expect to be treated like shit in return. Unfortunately, we have all seen this happen in one form or another. It is sad and depressing for me to see things like that happen.

As you said, it is a 2-way street.

Posted by Don E. Nelson (Member # 1049) on 06-27-2003, 02:10 PM:

.....butter her bread, that always impresses the ladies. I have told that to lots of guys and it seems to work, so maybe it will work for you. Its such a little thing, but it says a lot. And listen to her more than you talk, thats real important, and make direct eye contact with her, lady's like the direct approach. Also ask her if she likes horses, never met a woman who did not like hoses and horseback riding.
Also compliment her on something, anything, but compliment her, women appreciate the compliments. and here is the big one, ask her to tell you about her dad. Bingo, your in luck now, women love to talk about their dads, took me years to figure that one out, special bond going on there.
And if you drive to the restaurant, make sure its at least a 50 min drive, then you can talk a lot without looking at each other, thats another trick, and valet parking always impresses the ladies, so go to a nice place and on the second date, buy her a rose. A single red rose.
Women know what that means, its like a secret sign between females, but it works. And if you go to a movie, buy her chocolate bon bons, they never buy it for themselves so it is a big treat. Oh, there are other things that impress the ladies but try these first. Good luck.

Posted by William Hooper (Member # 71) on 06-30-2003, 03:54 AM:

Pay off your date's credit card bills.
Lick all of the utensils at dinner to make sure no offensive dishtowel lint clings to them.
Have ten little pictures of your date made at 1/4" wide, then glue them to your fingernails where they can be glimpsed at dinner.
Pre-open all of the little paper sugar or creamer packets that may be on the table.
Show manliness by offering to kill & cook all animals seen when on the date.

Posted by Rachel Gilardi (Member # 1016) on 06-30-2003, 09:30 AM:

William sounds like my kind of guy!!! [beer]

Ok, not really...

Posted by Phil Hill (Member # 371) on 06-30-2003, 10:09 AM:

I like the idea of 1/4" fingernail pictures. That's hilarious! I will try that one....thank's for the tip!

>>> Phil