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Author Topic: sleeping with or dating co-workers wrong? Steve Kraus Film God Posts: 4094 From: Chicago, IL, USA Registered: May 2000 posted 11-03-2004 10:03 PM                    Well good because most of them aren't very good at their stated purpose. A little more workspace would do wonders for both functions.  |  IP: Logged Tom Simcoe Film Handler Posts: 9 From: Hamilton New York Registered: Nov 2004 posted 11-08-2004 03:24 AM                     I think it's perfectly fine to date people you work with, there is this one girl at the theater who works down stairs and concession and tickets and I've liked her for a long time. Knowing nothing will happen, I do keep my distance from screwing with the buisness relationship. But at the same time, we talk alot between shows and I have alot of fun doing that. What's wrong with having a comfortable workplace?  |  IP: Logged Chris Medley Expert Film Handler Posts: 180 From: McKinney, TX, USA Registered: Jan 2004 posted 11-08-2004 06:36 AM                        It's not the comfortable workplace that is the problem, as long as everyone remains professional, it's the fallout after the breakup that causes the problems...and no matter how much you think you two will be together forever, odds are you will break up and it will be messy. I have seen it almost tear a whole staff apart because of people taking sides and it effects the way you have to run a business. When it gets to that level you also have to worry about your managers looking to just get rid of the problem, which is perfectly legal because it is often stated in many theater guidelines that dating is discouraged...you could both end up without a job, along with some of your compatriots.  |  IP: Logged Chris Brown Expert Film Handler Posts: 105 From: Fairport, NY, USA Registered: Nov 2004 posted 11-08-2004 10:58 PM                        In my time I've seen good and bad things happen with this. On the good side, my best friend met his girlfriend of 2 and a half years at Regal. He doesnt work there anymore, but while they were both on staff they were able to not let their relationship be a problem while at work. That's the ideal way to do it. But on the other hand, there are a few couples there now who can't keep their personal relationships separate. They always ask to go on break together, be scheduled together, etc. And unfortunately they are buddy-buddy with some of the other managers so they typically get their wish. Its pretty ridiculous sometimes. So basically I think between equal staff members its OK, if they are able to handle it with maturity. I dont think its a good idea between supervisory people and staff though...only leads to problems. I had a weird situation a few years ago where I really liked this girl on the staff and was pretty good friends with her outside work...but of course being a manager I couldnt do anything about it. But it was hard, if an issue came up or she was doing something wrong, I was in a weird position. Thankfully nothing came of it and its OK now...but its not something I'd like to deal with again.  |  IP: Logged Wayne Keyser Master Film Handler Posts: 272 From: Arlington, Virginia, USA Registered: May 2004 posted 11-08-2004 11:32 PM                     In response to the "age difference" posts a few items back: I married at 37 to a lovely 27-year-old. I always tease her that she is perfect for me - in fact, when I was just out of college at 21, I was looking for someone just like her - and at the time she was 11. I usually get the "dirty old man!" look and a punch in the shoulder - but we've been married 18 years now.  |  IP: Logged Brad Allen Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 688 From: Evansville, IN, USA Registered: May 2000 posted 11-09-2004 11:28 AM                     That's differant, she wasn't jail bait at the time.  |  IP: Logged Barry Martin Expert Film Handler Posts: 203 From: Newington, CT USA Registered: Jul 2002 posted 11-09-2004 03:36 PM                        Wayne, my point is the same as Brad's. He is a lot older and in a position to take advantage of a very young girl whereas you and your wife were both adults for quite a while before you married. Granted, it's legal that they're and who knows, maybe they'll be married and live happily ever after! But in the meantime it just seems like a bad situation. Even then, I don't care if they date outside of work, I just don't want to walk in on any more public displays or worse.  |  IP: Logged Anslem Rayburn Master Film Handler Posts: 476 From: Yuma, AZ, USA Registered: May 2002 posted 11-10-2004 05:49 AM                     We have had 3 couples that met at work. All three couples have managed to remain professional at work. Two are managers (with younger people), the other is key-staff (long time employee) and a newbee. They understand that they cannot always get time off together, and that they must act professional at work. We make sure they are told of these two points, and they have no problem with it. We have yet to receive a complaint from co-workers that someone is being treated differently, and we have seen nothing that would suggest it. I actually respect them more for their effort, and applaud their mature attitudes. If there relationships made things awkward or 'weird', then we would talk to them further. I think if they are mature enough to understand the dynamics of a work atmosphere, then let them do their thing.  |  IP: Logged Chris Medley Expert Film Handler Posts: 180 From: McKinney, TX, USA Registered: Jan 2004 posted 11-10-2004 06:39 AM                        Wayne...I hope you made an error..but if you two had been married "18" years and she is now "27" she would have been (9) years old when you two were married and you would have been (19) years old.  |  IP: Logged Randy Stankey Film God Posts: 6539 From: Erie, Pennsylvania Registered: Jun 99 posted 11-10-2004 07:59 AM                     No. He met her when he was 21 and she was 11. They got married when he was 37 and she was 27. 18 years later, he is 55 and she is 45.  |  IP: Logged Wayne Keyser Master Film Handler Posts: 272 From: Arlington, Virginia, USA Registered: May 2004 posted 11-10-2004 09:18 PM                     No, I met her when I was 37 and she was 27 - we married within 6 months, and that was 18 years ago. I TEASE her about the "21 - 11" thing ... when I was 21 I was having disastrous relationships with 21-year-olds just like everyone else. The only real "I met her when she was in grade school and I was middle-aged" thing I've heard about is Celine Dion and her hubby. Hey, folks - I didn't mean to start a whole thing about it, I was just throwing in a comment for humor's sake!  |  IP: Logged Jennifer Pan THE JEN! Posts: 1219 From: Denver, Colorado Registered: Nov 2003 posted 11-13-2004 11:48 PM                        There can be a matter where co-workers are not necessarily dating but alot of them just mess around. There's the common "I've made out with so and so" or the "I've kissed this many people at work" and so forth. It's like a supermarket sometimes. Shop until you don't work there anymore.  |  IP: Logged Jason Black Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1723 From: Myrtle Beach, SC, USA Registered: Nov 2000 posted 11-13-2004 11:55 PM                        Nice Philosphy...  |  IP: Logged Jennifer Pan THE JEN! Posts: 1219 From: Denver, Colorado Registered: Nov 2003 posted 11-14-2004 12:07 AM                        There's only so many different types of meat out there in the frozen meat section. Forget checking out in the express line. "20 items or less... come on ..." or how about going by every food taster booth and trying it out. Maybe more than once...  |  IP: Logged Richard Greco Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1180 From: Plant City, FL Registered: Nov 2003 posted 11-14-2004 12:16 AM                     I am the best type of meat around....rump roast Seriously though, when I was at the theater, there were many girls I wanted to mess around with, but didn't because they all were under 18. At my place now, there is this one 21 y/o that is kinda cute, but is the boss's son's fiance, so we can only be just friends.  |  IP: Logged

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