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Author Topic: How our folks drive us insane Leo Enticknap Film God Posts: 7474 From: Loma Linda, CA Registered: Jul 2000 posted 11-08-2006 05:03 PM                        I think the bottom line is that when people get to their late teens, they want independence and autonomy and their parents are anxious about letting go. That combination is bound to cause some mieowing and hissing: the only issue is how much and how long it lasts. It's a major process of change, at the start of which you're financially and emotionally dependant on your parents and at the end of which you're not. Give and take on both sides is needed in order to keep the stress levels down during what is a big adjustment. quote: Jennifer Pan The doorknob missing from my door played no role in this horror How do you know? On second thoughts, the detail needed to answer that question is probably not suitable for a respectable website... In flagrante with a doorknob; now that's an interesting thought...  |  IP: Logged Chris Hipp Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1462 From: Mesquite, Tx (east of Dallas) Registered: Jul 2003 posted 11-08-2006 05:45 PM                     quote: Brad Miller Chris, I wasn't referring to The Jen. I said "before someone comes on here...." silly. I wasnt either, duh.  |  IP: Logged Joe Redifer You need a beating today Posts: 12859 From: Denver, Colorado Registered: May 99 posted 11-08-2006 06:31 PM                        Jeez Brad, get a clue you silly goose!  |  IP: Logged Donna Siegwart Film Handler Posts: 63 From: Houston, TX Registered: Jun 2005 posted 11-08-2006 08:49 PM                        All I can say is I am lucky in my living situations so far. I just moved back in with my Mom until I can get a place with my Fiancé and its so weird living with my mom and her friend (who is a quadriplegic). I myself lived with a friend and HER family for the past 2 1/2 years! Though they never bothered me, I was always at work. I just try to stay out of peoples way. Oh and Kelly, remember you have to visit me, and you can complain about your mom to me, you have my cell (i miss brick a little)  |  IP: Logged Wayne Keyser Master Film Handler Posts: 272 From: Arlington, Virginia, USA Registered: May 2004 posted 11-08-2006 10:16 PM                     I gotta tell ya - it's tough being a dad, too. Picture it: Me, the missus, and two boys live in a lovely condo, the boys in their bedroom on the top (entry) floor and the adults in their bedroom directly below (it's quiet, cool and dark, and I love it, but all those things bothered the kids so they are happily upstairs where it's sunny and there are no monsters hiding). So the older one is 18, and off to college, and sometimes visits and brings his girlfriend. And she's sweet and quiet and, I'm sure, is not thrilled finding me upstairs getting breakfast and turning on the TV quietly and sitting my poor semi-crippled self in my special chair, about a foot away from her, as she sleeps till ten or eleven (usually with my boy curled up beside her as I often find them when I arise). Heck, I'm not gonna make them get up, but I can only hide downstairs for so long. So last visit, I reach an agreement with the younger kid - he can sleep on the sofa, and they can sleep in the kid room - there's nothing they can do there that they couldn't do in the living room while the rest of the house is asleep. EXCEPT... that I wake up in the middle of the night to "freshen up my makeup," and from the bedroom overhead (you see this coming way down the road, don't you?) "BOONK-boonk-BOONK-boonk" ... sounds like firemen are pounding down the wall above me ... and I first reflect that it seems like an effort that easily matches or surpasses the best I remember from my own experience, I muse that I might do what you do with cats yowling outside in the yard at night and throw a pan full of cold water on them in there, and then remember that I sort of asked for this so I can't complain, and THEN I reflect that it's gonna be difficult to get back to sleep, and how do I mention tactfully in the morning that he MIGHT move the bed a couple more inches from the wall? Whose idea was it to have kids, anyway? Oh, yeah ... mine.  |  IP: Logged Bruce McGee Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1776 From: Asheville, NC USA... Nowhere in Particular. Registered: Aug 1999 posted 11-08-2006 10:27 PM                     After living on my own for almost 30 years, I moved back home in 2/06 after I was allowed to come home from the hospital. I could NOT take care of myself, but had a pal move into my house and take care of my animals. I lived in the bed, and very short steps to the bathroom, and that was it. My folks are in their late 70's, and were very happy to have me back in the house. It drove me crazy after 7 weeks, as I had no privacy, and also had to deal with my sister, and her 6 year old son living there, too. When I started walking around a bit, I started getting a bit brazen, and started talking back to my mom. She suddenly decided that it was time for me to go back to my house. So I did, but will never forget all the help she and my dad did for me while I was critical. Jen, you got your doorknob back. I think, unknowingly, you made your point. I never saw my folks making whoopee, but I know they did, at least 3 times... I have 2 sisters! All the best. Things will work out. Bruce  |  IP: Logged Will Kutler Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1506 From: Tucson, AZ, USA Registered: Feb 2001 posted 11-09-2006 03:08 PM                     This is off the topic a little...but thought it would give everyone a little chuckle. When I was in the service the dorms were co-ed. One of the female tennants was a nymp and SCREAMER...you could clearly hear her the entire length and breadth of the barraks hallway. Occasionally we would congregate outside her door and have a good chuckle...including pulling the ole routine seen in the classic film "MASH", where a microphone and pa system was used to "enhance her pleasure"!! But I never, ever played practical jokes on my poor tormented folks! Not that they bought me the Radio Shack 101 Electronic (Science Lab) kit that did contain a "bug" circuit that I placed in their room!!!!! Kutler  |  IP: Logged Josh Jones Redhat Posts: 1207 From: Plano, TX Registered: Apr 2000 posted 11-11-2006 06:02 AM                        ROFL!!! Wayne that was awesome. the visuals were spectacular, and should be in a movie somewhere. JJ  |  IP: Logged Aaron Mehocic Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 804 From: New Castle, PA, USA Registered: Jun 99 posted 11-11-2006 12:05 PM                     I grew up as the only child in a two-parent home. My dad often walked into my room unannounced and openly questioned me on new things he might find. My mom thoroughly cleaned every room in our house at least once per week - arranging closest and sweeping under beds was standard-operating-proceedure. The short story here is that I had no privacy as a kid. I respect that. Specially now since my daughter has been born. It wasn't that I wanted to rebel against my parents quirky ways. Even as a kid I understood why they were doing what they were doing. I lived in their house and it was their rules. My greatest fear growing up wasn't that they were going to find beer cigarettes or porn, but that if they did I let them down. And I think that hurt me more than if they had found contraband.  |  IP: Logged Pravin Ratnam Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 844 From: Atlanta, GA,USA Registered: Sep 2002 posted 11-15-2006 04:30 AM                     If a kid is an adult, I do not care if they are living with their parents, the parents need to back off of the room. Their only concern should be how their kid takes care of the house, doesn't leave unwashed dishes, noise level, any illegal activities such as use of drugs in their house putting them at legal risk, and how the kid's friends conduct themselvesa in common living areas. So unless Joe makes a trip and is loitering in common living areas snorting coke off of Jennifer's ass, Jennifer's parents should back off. P.S.: I hate to say this, but I do side with the parents on Jennifer's treatment of house guests. Unless these guests are ungrateful moochers and are taking advantage of the parents, I would say the parents are justified in asking for friendlier behavior.  |  IP: Logged Jennifer Pan THE JEN! Posts: 1219 From: Denver, Colorado Registered: Nov 2003 posted 11-15-2006 07:36 AM                        Well, I already said hello to the guests when they first arrived. So I don't see any other greetings necessary. But my parents expect me to be all bests friends with these people EVERYDAY. Not trying to dog on old people but these guests are old people who spend all day gossiping about other people... and when you add my parents into the mix I'm surprised they don't work for 60 minutes the way they jabber on about everyone and everything. It's not my cup of tea... to add on top of that the other day my mom wanted me to give some money to these guests because since they are old people they should get money...?? They need to be giving me money not the other way around. I mean they can afford plane tickets to visit and go back and now they want my money? I'm pretty sure my parent gave them some cash because "they are old" and paid for all the food they wanted while they stayed over here. My parents have been this way since the dawn of time and I'm very sheltered because of that. They've gone through my room and looked through/rearranged everything in my room at least 6 times this year. And every time they find nothing... This isn't a big deal to me because I never had the desire to want to sneak out but when my parents bought the house here in AZ they bought it with metal BARS on the front door and windows already on them. Every month or so my dad checks my car mileage and interrogates me of where I have been. What's been useful so far is that I have to be naked in my room... and when they try to come in unannounced I yell at them for coming in when I'm naked. They quickly close the door and walk away.  |  IP: Logged Chris Hipp Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1462 From: Mesquite, Tx (east of Dallas) Registered: Jul 2003 posted 11-15-2006 12:13 PM                     EASY fix. Three or four giant dildos, maybe get a strap on. Your parents are obviously too shy to talk to you about sex. So start planting stuff that they don't want to see. They won't look for things they dont want to see.  |  IP: Logged Jennifer Pan THE JEN! Posts: 1219 From: Denver, Colorado Registered: Nov 2003 posted 11-15-2006 01:09 PM                        No, they will just throw those away. Like my Victoria Secret Catalogs when they come in the mail and if I receive any packages they sometimes open it or interrogate me of what I bought. Then lecture to me about money. There were several times when they wanted to actually take the whole door out.  |  IP: Logged Bobby Henderson "Ask me about Trajan." Posts: 10973 From: Lawton, OK, USA Registered: Apr 2001 posted 11-15-2006 01:10 PM                     My parents were pretty cool about respecting my privacy and not trying to shelter me from everything in the world. When I was 12 they let me listen to Van Halen and hang a fairly naughty poster on my bedroom wall. It was from the Queen vinyl record "Jazz" (the poster featured over 100 naked ladies on bicycles at the starting line of a race in Germany). I should note my parents were still pretty young at the time, just turning 30. They kept the rules short and simple. Keep up with the homework and few chores I had and don't do anything illegal. Outside of those restrictions my brother and I had quite a bit of freedom. But I'll tell you what drives me nuts about my parents: the little things. For instance, my father can get a bowl of cereal, ice cream, soup, potato salad or just about anything else and drive me up the wall with how he eats something. He has to stir around and play with his food, clink the bowl with the spoon and make all kinds of smacking noises when he finally starts eating. To compound matters even worse, he has to do this in the living room recliner while endlessly clicking through TV stations with the remote, never watching more than 10 or 15 seconds per channel. "Dad? You ever hear of a TV guide?" I just can't be in the same room. My mother has some of the traits of a hypochondriac. Whenever I got any kind of bug, she'd claim she had the same thing. If I wasn't really sick and just pretending to test her, yep, she'd be sick with whatever I lied about having. I think the same thing is part of what kills many marriages. Money is usually the root of the problem. But it's also like that quote from The War of the Roses: "when I watch you eat, when I see you sleep, when I look at you lately I just want to smash your face in." Teens and college age adults at least have the luxury of simply moving out when they reach that level of madness with their parents.  |  IP: Logged Brad Miller Administrator Posts: 17775 From: Plano, TX (36.2 miles NW of Rockwall) Registered: May 99 posted 11-15-2006 02:34 PM                     quote: Jennifer Pan What's been useful so far is that I have to be naked in my room... Ummm, is this house policy?  |  IP: Logged

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